In Response to Adventuresfrom.com - I Could Have Been Eating Banku

Adventuresfrom.com is a very interesting and real blog for all you sexually active peeps out there. There's a lot to learn and share. I've read much of it and shared nothing. This i figured would be my contribution, not only to the blog, but everyone who reads it.

So Abena (the writer), you have every right to be pissed with preemies. You're all psyched up for a pleasurable experience and in a matter of minutes it ends. I've had a bad day before. I've always said this and will always stick to it, 'that there is no greater pleasure than the one found between a woman's thighs'. The brave become cowards and the mighty become weak when they get in. My first time - like most first times wasn't glorious. Luckily this girl I was dating then knew what she wanted so kept at it till I was hard again.... and then I failed, AGAIN! It was a shameful, dreaded experience for me but, that didn't stop me (or her either). I won't claim fame to being a master of this trade but let's just say that accidents seldom occur now. And it's all because I stick to certain latent rules that most guys fail to follow.

You usually hear about 'absurd' solution to premature ejaculation. The most common advises men to think about anything else besides the sex they're having (something I find really hard to do especially when my whole mind heart and body is in!), so they can lose concentration. My take on that is, if you lose concentration won't you lose your erection?

But let's get straight to the point and that is, SEX IS ALL ABOUT COMMUNICATION! It really is. Some men just want to get in without talking or having enough foreplay. That's the formula for a quickie, not love-making. Other men just get plain anxious and nervous; a recipe for ejaculating before penetrating. SAD..... Caress each other. Talk about it while you're making out in bed. Make sure you're both happy, smooching and laughing in between. Let her get comfortable with your size (large or small) and be comfortable with her cherry too. The best foreplay results in the best sex. It's all about getting her wet, ready and tingling all over. Then when you finally thrust, you concentrate on finishing what you started and not on yourself. I know it, I've tried it and it works!

I've found out that when I listen to a woman while having sex with her, I forget about pleasing myself and concentrate on pleasing her. Every sound and move she makes is important in communicating what you should do and not do. When she says harder, she means harder. When she says swing, she means swing. Take your mind off how good her cherry tastes and pay close attention to her body language and all her mmhmmm's and aaaaaah's. Like I iterated earlier, strive to make her cum. It takes effort and hard work to please a woman so Abena, don't invite lazy douche bags in.

Men may not be as complex as women, but we also have our own buttons. Expect the best from us but make sure you get what you expect. I mean don't lie there and expect magic to happen all the time. You always have to know you male partner. If he's nervous or anxious, there's a high risk of a preemie experience. Some women I know will act like they're the shit and you can't handle them. To hell with that! We're both in for the 'cumming'. If you, the woman, want a good time, sometimes you have to play a role too. It makes sense that you act all that when a brother is trying to 'toast' you - but after he's toasted, you've gotta make it worth both your whiles. No point in going through all those days of trouble for only 2mins of nothing.

It's a two way thing, but it's usually her first and not him, or her and him cumming together (which is the most pleasurable climax ever!).