Love, Sex and Matrix

In my sex life, I've only done so much when it comes to karmasutra. I've never done a spider, froggie or any of those bone-breaking, back-locking, leg-twisting MATRIX moves which are supposed to make sex more pleasurable and fun - mostly because I'm not extremely athletic and I just don't think they are feasible in practical terms. I won't claim to be a pro at love-making but I'll say this, I'm very comfortable with sex and besides it being an act of love, I do, always, explore the fun side.

The first few years of my sexual life were filled with thoughts about how fun it would be to try out all these matrix moves. During my college years I met a girl who promised to be a freak in the sheets only to find out that all she did was lay there and scream (I WAS freaked out!). She didn't make an attempt to even switch positions. After she 'came' a couple of times she said, "Oh God, I'm tired papa!"....Boring! That's when I knew that most women who act like they are the shit are actually only screamers and dormant boring rice sacks.

My girlfriend and I have special times when we spend a weekend together and try to do interesting things to each other. We think of fun things to do like, role play, location sex, 'creme de la creme' (our own secret invention) and more. These spice up our sex life in ways we both never thought possible. We take our creativity everywhere, even to the shower. Things weren't as much fun when I used to just date because most girls don't want to be 'used' as a playmate. This is not to say we don't have passionate sex. One of the things I like to do is surprise my girl and give her a real treat. This means a lot of sacrifice: I won't ejaculate. I spend the whole time arousing feelings that she hardly feels in her. That's passion, that's work, but it's always worth it.

How comfortable are you with sex?

Do you usually have sex with just anyone, random people or one person you may actually love?

How do these three scenarios affect how much fun you have during sex?

What type of sex are you into; wild or passionate?

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In Response to Adventuresfrom.com - I Could Have Been Eating Banku

Adventuresfrom.com is a very interesting and real blog for all you sexually active peeps out there. There's a lot to learn and share. I've read much of it and shared nothing. This i figured would be my contribution, not only to the blog, but everyone who reads it.

So Abena (the writer), you have every right to be pissed with preemies. You're all psyched up for a pleasurable experience and in a matter of minutes it ends. I've had a bad day before. I've always said this and will always stick to it, 'that there is no greater pleasure than the one found between a woman's thighs'. The brave become cowards and the mighty become weak when they get in. My first time - like most first times wasn't glorious. Luckily this girl I was dating then knew what she wanted so kept at it till I was hard again.... and then I failed, AGAIN! It was a shameful, dreaded experience for me but, that didn't stop me (or her either). I won't claim fame to being a master of this trade but let's just say that accidents seldom occur now. And it's all because I stick to certain latent rules that most guys fail to follow.

You usually hear about 'absurd' solution to premature ejaculation. The most common advises men to think about anything else besides the sex they're having (something I find really hard to do especially when my whole mind heart and body is in!), so they can lose concentration. My take on that is, if you lose concentration won't you lose your erection?

But let's get straight to the point and that is, SEX IS ALL ABOUT COMMUNICATION! It really is. Some men just want to get in without talking or having enough foreplay. That's the formula for a quickie, not love-making. Other men just get plain anxious and nervous; a recipe for ejaculating before penetrating. SAD..... Caress each other. Talk about it while you're making out in bed. Make sure you're both happy, smooching and laughing in between. Let her get comfortable with your size (large or small) and be comfortable with her cherry too. The best foreplay results in the best sex. It's all about getting her wet, ready and tingling all over. Then when you finally thrust, you concentrate on finishing what you started and not on yourself. I know it, I've tried it and it works!

I've found out that when I listen to a woman while having sex with her, I forget about pleasing myself and concentrate on pleasing her. Every sound and move she makes is important in communicating what you should do and not do. When she says harder, she means harder. When she says swing, she means swing. Take your mind off how good her cherry tastes and pay close attention to her body language and all her mmhmmm's and aaaaaah's. Like I iterated earlier, strive to make her cum. It takes effort and hard work to please a woman so Abena, don't invite lazy douche bags in.

Men may not be as complex as women, but we also have our own buttons. Expect the best from us but make sure you get what you expect. I mean don't lie there and expect magic to happen all the time. You always have to know you male partner. If he's nervous or anxious, there's a high risk of a preemie experience. Some women I know will act like they're the shit and you can't handle them. To hell with that! We're both in for the 'cumming'. If you, the woman, want a good time, sometimes you have to play a role too. It makes sense that you act all that when a brother is trying to 'toast' you - but after he's toasted, you've gotta make it worth both your whiles. No point in going through all those days of trouble for only 2mins of nothing.

It's a two way thing, but it's usually her first and not him, or her and him cumming together (which is the most pleasurable climax ever!).